From Fear to Freedom: Himeesh Madaan's Take on Love and Solitude

In the movie Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara, Arjun is faced with a fear many of us can relate to. Initially, he was so afraid of swimming because he thought he couldn't deal with the water. But when he emerges from it, he realizes his fear wasn't the water itself, but the chance of drowning in it. Similarly, Farhan learns that his fear wasn't the height of the cliff but that of falling from it. According to public speaker Himeesh Madaan, such a concept as fear of something deeper might help people better understand emotional experiences within relationships.

Fear of the Unknown: How It Shapes Our Lives

As children, we aren't afraid of the dark itself but of what might be lurking inside it. That fear is about the unknown. The same concept applies to our relationships. When we feel insecure about our partner spending time with others or not being as attentive, we often fear that they might drift away from us. But in reality, our fear isn't just about them leaving us. It's about the idea of being left alone, of facing the journey of life without the person we envisioned sharing it with.

Loneliness vs. Solitude: Understanding the Difference

This really helps if we know whether loneliness is being scared or afraid to be alone; solitude, on the other hand, is choosing and wanting to be alone and with ourselves. The fears that usually accompany relationships mostly come about when people mistakenly confuse between loneliness and solitude. We may be afraid of being alone in relationships, but we must understand that loneliness doesn't have to be painful. Conversely, solitude can promote self-awareness, personal development, and peace.

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The Power of Self-Discovery

The pressure within a relationship goes down as we begin to enjoy our own company and find some solace in solitude. We are no longer waiting for someone else, our partner, to fill up the emotional gaps of our existence; instead, we begin to realize that our happiness is not dependent on someone else, and love becomes a gift instead of an exchange.